I think most people get to a point in their lives when something just clicks and you realise that you don’t to want be regretting the things you have done or haven’t done. I’m there, I’ve arrived at the life point! It feels like I’m in a bit of a sorting, reassessing and prioritising part of my life. For me it’s about focusing on the little things or the core values that make me the individual that I am.
There have always been ideas and ideals floating around my hectic brain of what I want to follow my life by, but its taken to age 34 . . . or is it 35 . . . WAIT ! no definitely 34, that I’m in the right frame of mind to actually put them into place. We all know these and know that we should be living this way but rarely actually do it. I don’t want to get to age 90 (if I’m lucky) thinking about all the stuff I should of done, I want to looking back on my life and happy with what I’ve done but also what I’ve learnt and of course my legacy.
Now I’ve thought up a few “goals” to help retrain my brain and get myself back on track. So here they are –
- Stop sweating the small stuff, I could be using the valuable energy to be doing something more positive or important
- Don’t dwell on the past, yes of course look back but learn from those experiences and move on
- Be kind to myself, whether it’s my thoughts or my actions. Give myself the love that I give to my loved ones.
- Slow down! Stop Rushing! I spend most of my time rushing around and not feeling that I can fit everything in. Take the time to plan my day and then things seem to run more smoothly and less stressful
- Stop and smell the Roses, kind of like the one above but it’s actually about prioritising that time to be important
- Less guilt! Enjoy that piece of cake and don’t regret it later, it’s ok to have lazy days. You can’t be on full steam ahead all the time otherwise you burn out. So enjoy those lazy days . . . even if it’s up a lazy week, don’t feel guilty for it.
- Lead by example, I have an impressionable little girl watching and looking up to me. This is my chance to set her up with kindness for her self, understanding of others and great morals
- Remember the things to be grateful for, at the end of each day I’m writing down at least one thing that I’m grateful for . . . even if it’s been a shitty day.
- Keep active. Yes exercise is great for the muscles and bones but it’s fantastic for the mind. It definitely helps me think straight.
- Explore, get outside and look! Appreciate what we have! Daylight and fresh air can do wonders.
Now these might seem a bit simple but I think most people struggle with these. If we can retrain the brain early on to let go, be kind to others and yourself, show appreciate and gratitude imagine how much happier we all can be. I know that we will ofcourse have few regrets here and there, none of us perfect but it’s all about learning from our mistakes and leading by example for others. Our children will learn from that and that is definitely a legacy I want to leave behind.